Awakening Your Natural Connection
"In nature, everything is connected. The same is true for our relationships – we just need to remember how to tune into those connections."
The REWILD Framework
Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? Like somewhere along the way, the natural flow of your relationship has become constrained by modern life's pressures, expectations, and routines?
You're not alone. Many couples find themselves caught in patterns that feel artificial, constrained, or disconnected from what originally brought them together. But just as nature has an incredible ability to rewild and restore itself when given the chance, your relationship has the natural capacity to return to a state of authentic connection.
This guide introduces the REWILD framework – a natural approach to deepening intimacy and authentic connection in your relationship.
R - Reconnect with Your Natural State
Before we can create authentic connections with others, we need to reconnect with ourselves.
What This Looks Like:
- Taking time to feel your body's natural rhythms and desires
- Noticing when your energy naturally rises and falls throughout the day
- Exploring what makes you feel alive and electric in your own skin
- Acknowledging your needs without judgment
Examples in Practice:
- Instead of immediately checking your phone in the morning, take a moment to stretch and feel your body awakening
- Notice how your body responds to different types of touch - from gentle caresses to firm pressure
- Create a sacred practice of self-touch and exploration
E - Express Without Filters
Share your true thoughts and authentic feelings, observing the social masks we wear and how we edit ourselves.
What This Looks Like:
- Voicing desires without shame
- Listening without judgement allows for space to share more authentically
- Sharing fantasies and dreams with your partner
- Being honest about what turns you on and off
Examples in Practice:
- "I love when you touch me like this..."
- "I've been dreaming about exploring ___ with you"
- "My body craves your touch most in the morning"
- "I feel most connected when we take our time"
W - Welcome What Arises
Create space for all emotions and responses, just as nature accepts all seasons.
What This Looks Like:
- Embracing both wild passion and gentle tenderness
- Accepting when desire ebbs and flows
- Making room for unexpected reactions
- Allowing yourself and your partner to be unpredictable
Examples in Practice:
- Passion might explode like a summer storm
- Intimacy might be as gentle as morning dew
- Welcome giggles and awkwardness as much as intense passion
- Let tears flow as freely as moans of pleasure
I - Initiate Intimate Dialogue
Create a special time to have conversations that matter, even when they feel challenging
What This Looks Like:
- Beginning conversations about desires and boundaries
- Sharing vulnerable feelings about intimacy
- Expressing appreciation for your partner's body and being
- Opening discussions about trying new things
Examples in Practice:
- "I want to share something that's been on my mind about our intimate life..."
- "Can we talk about what makes you feel most desired?"
- "I'd love to explore new ways of touching you..."
- "Remember that time when we…(insert sexy memory)"
L - Listen Like the Forest
Practice deep, patient listening that allows your partner to fully unfold.
What This Looks Like:
- Listen without thinking of your response (do you tend to get defensive?)
- Notice body language and breath
- Creating a non-judgemental space for full expression
Examples in Practice:
- Pause after listening and before sharing
- Empathize with your partner, and reflect back what you heard
- Get curious to learn more about their experience
- Notice how your responses land with your partner when you share
- Does your partner shut down or open up after your responses?
D - Deepen Through Practice
Build new patterns of connection through consistent, mindful practice.
What This Looks Like:
- Creating regular rituals of connection
- Exploring new ways of touching and being touched
- Building trust through consistent presence
- Expanding your intimate repertoire together
Examples in Practice:
- Start each day with 5 minutes of skin-to-skin contact
- End each day by sharing one thing you desire about your partner
- Practice new ways of touching/connecting each week
- Create a weekly practice of extended intimate time together
Remember
- Like wild creatures, our desires can't be forced or tamed
- Natural intimacy flows between playful and profound
- Trust builds through consistent, authentic connection
- The deepest pleasures often arise when we let go of expectations
Integration Practice
Choose one element of REWILD each week to focus on. Notice how your connection deepens as you practice each element. Let your exploration be both playful and profound, always guided by what feels natural and true for both of you.
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